It’s important to remember that these may help you, but they will not prevent all rapes. a rapist will target their victim, and in many cases no matter what the precautions are a rapist will find a way around it. It is never your fault! even if you did not follow theses suggestions. Rape is a premeditated crime. This means your trapped before you even know it.
Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of predatory rapists, in prison were interviewed. what they look for in a potential victim? Here are various answers given.
1] firstly, predators look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They like to go after a victim wearing a ponytail, bun , braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. The predators are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] secondly, predators look for, in a victim is clothing. They will look for clothing that is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] Predators also look for victims using their cell phone, searching through their bags, or doing other activities while walking the potential victim is off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place people are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two are office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three are public restrooms.
7] The nature of the predators are that they are looking to grab a victim, and quickly move them to a second location. This is so, they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If one puts up any kind of a fight at all, they may get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming. If one can deter the attacker from taking them to a second location, do it!
9] These predators said they would not target victims who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these predators you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you, on a street, in a garage, with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question. Examples are: what time is it? Make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry a taser. Holding it out and using it can be a deterrent. however, if they are wearing thicker clothes. The tasers may not be strong enough.
4] If someone grabs the waist, and one can’t beat them with strength, we can do it by outsmarting them. If the waistline is grabbed, pinch the predator either under the arm between the elbow, and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD! A woman in a situation used the groin pinch on a predator who was trying to rape her. He was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit to the throat always go for the groin. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, and go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the person really was trouble.
Here are some more tips: remember rape is about control and is never your fault!
1. Tip from My Army Training: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans: if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS, LEAVE!
A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side, peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. (DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB).
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most predators attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a Suspicious person is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard /policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
Yes, this is twisted. Those narcissistic people think this way. However, they do. Remember, this is a premeditated crime. If you can’t avoid the attacker. Its fully understood!