I have always been asked, and for a long time wondered myself, how to find that intimate love? The love of a life time. One who I could spend the rest of their life with me, and accept me. This can be attained, however, you must first love yourself to achieve this high relationship goal. One must have achieved self love before one can be open to true love. This may not be the best way for you, but I found success, with joining a dating website. Specifically, Plenty Of Fish.
http://www.pof.com/ This gave me a range of dates. I also could figure out what I liked and didn’t like. Having, the supervision of a dear friend who was 60 helped me. She held my hand in many ways as my broken soul explored the dating world. Other avenues can Be: coffee shops, concerts, specialty clubs: running, art, music, community, etc. even grocery stores.
Pick up lines that might work…. Hello my name is…. How are you. yeah it’s not rocket science.
Pick up lines that might not work:
I lost my number may I have yours?
Did it hurt?…. when you fell from heaven?
is your dad a baker? Because you have nice buns.
Is your dad a butcher? Because you have nice hams.
Are you Australian? because you meet all my koalafications.
Hey baby, how about you and me play house? I’ll be the screen door and you can slam me all night long.
There is a 50/50 chances you may get pepper sprayed on that last one.
Please when dating in any situation Have a trusted friend who will know where and who you are with. I would first tell them all about the guy, and my friend would give me her opinion. After I and my friend screened him, I would agree to meet him in a public place. Always take your own car/ transportation. This may sound like over kill, however, I would also take pictures of the guy, his car, etc, and send updates to my friend. trust your gut feeling.
if you get a funny feeling in your gut trust it. Rejection, is not to be feared. When you love yourself, there are no worries of rejection. Truly it’s their loss. Yes, I had guys hang up on me, stand me up, and make me feel not worthy, thank goodness for the support of my older friend. Each rejection made me stronger. The world did not end and I could see myself developing self confidence.
Love is a verb, you will not only feel it you will see it, hear it, and yes smell it. you may ask smell it? yes smell it. If you like the body odder of your partner this means your immune systems matches and that you can make a healthier babies. Yes strange I know, however it’s a biological response. THAT’S SCIENCE SUCKAS besides his stink, and actions do speak louder then empty words.
If it’s true love he/she will find time for you. They should make a effort for you and vice versa. There should be no waiting for days to hear from them.
The first time my friend met her husband she gave him her phone number. He told her that he had no phone.
She simply said, ” You will find away.”
Guess what? He bought him self a phone and called her the next day! This is what I mean by love is a verb. Actions speak louder than words. It will not always be easy, relationships take work and patience.
the best way to stay in love is act in love, meaning when married for 30 years in a non abusive relationship, you must act in love at times to keep the peace and regain your true love feelings.
My mother told me there are actually times when she is so frustrated with my dad that it feels like hate. But as her anger subsides the love is there,and she can find a way to regain it. Again, Love is not always easy but it’s worth it. It’s proven people live longer if they have good social relationships.
Can you show anything about yourself, including your deepest thoughts and feelings, without fear of rejection or misunderstanding? ________
Is the message of your relationship, “grow, expand, create, show, show?” Or is it, “hide, conceal, think only in certain ways, behave only in certain ways, feel only certain things?”
Grow___ Hide ___
Does this relationship offer both parties ideal growth? ___
Can you both develop into the greatest persons you can be? ___
Does your partner fully accept that you have thoughts, beliefs, preferences, and feelings that differ from his? ___
Does he respect those differences? ___
Does he cherish you despite them? ___
Does he accept your differences without trying to change you? ___
Do you want to accept that your partner has thoughts, beliefs, preferences, and feelings that differ from yours? ___
Can you respect those differences? ___
Can you cherish your partner despite them? ___
Can you accept them without trying to change them? ___