Find a good Counselor Who…..
2.does not want a friendship out side of therapy.
3.Doesn’t push forgiveness or recollection.
4.keeps focus on you not the abuser.
5.never minimized your pain.
6.Has or willing to get info for your healing.
7.do they talk about there own problems?
8.respects your feelings
9.encourages contact with other survivors
10.doesn’t for you to do anything you don’t want you to do.
11.teaches you skills.
12.willing to discus all problems.
13. Has you develop a plan for healing
So, I ask you, what kind of consular helped you and what did not help? wright out all the qualities you are looking for. I know one asked me why didn’t you call the cops? I didn’t have an answer. All I could think was why did I forget to do that? And those unhealthy thoughts were not helpful. But another was able to weave my spirituality in my healing process, and that helped so much. One may have to interview many consulars. Do not give up! Keep searching and find someone you can connect with. They will help you, help yourself grow.