Many of you couldn’t imagine forgiving an attacker. This takes time to do. You must first make peace with yourself; and come to terms with what has happened. Imagine yourself at a crossroad: In one direction is peace and happiness; the other is pain and hate. You cannot go both ways; so you must choose a path. To continue to hold on to pain and hate will; eventually; destroy you. It is like poison… the longer you harbor it; the more damage it creates in your personal life and your spiritual life; as well as being physically damaging to your body. Do not let the attacker win! Hanging on to the hate will control you. Your attacker could be a million miles away; and still be in control of you; should you choose the path of hatred. You do not have to forget! (that will never happen) ~but if you CAN forgive. If you choose the path of forgiveness; you WILL be much; much happier. Again: This takes time !! So don’t be disappointed if you cannot do this right away. Be patient with yourSELF! And remember, no one can force you to forgive, that’s just for you!!!
My personal path to forgiveness was long and bumpy.one day I thought I had forgiven and the next I was at square one. I even felt disappointed because I could not forgive. because I knew If I could forgive this would tell me I was very close to completing my healing. but I had to give it time. most importantly, I needed the time to have my anger.