Surviving rape Suggestions ~ Michelle McMaster-Bond

Give yourself time to Grieve

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ3wpjdYMqk] You must give yourself time to grieve . Why not? You did just die a little . When you, as a survivor hear this. Understand, do not be triggered. Have relief in knowing, I may never be myself but I can recreate my life. There is a part of one self that will never …

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Say It! Naming the abuser

This task may be hard for us to do, but this can be healing. By naming your abuser you can free yourself just a little. Let go of some fear just a little. Maybe the name has never been named out loud. This is not Harry Potter (the fictional children’s book) That person or people …

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Fire Starter

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bh6eznhPcOo]   If One’s a collector of memories like me, we have collected objects from our past that remind us of bad times. Displaying pictures of people that make you upset, or keeping the consert shirt, are a constant reminder of painful memories. Get this stuff out of your life! collect those painful memories and …

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Being on red alert

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4qlCC1GOwFw] When you’re on red alert your brain feels as if it’s going hay wire. Thoughts, nightmares and low energy may inundate,and overwhelm you at this time. this is like having your coolant drain from your race car and you’ve just got done driving in the Indianapolis 500. Your on red alert, and it’s time …

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Find a good Counselor Who…..

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i8WNHYhhd0U] Find a good Counselor Who….. 1.Believes you 2.does not want a friendship out side of therapy. 3.Doesn’t push forgiveness or recollection. 4.keeps focus on you not the abuser. 5.never minimized your pain. 6.Has or willing to get info for your healing. 7.do they talk about there own problems? 8.respects your feelings 9.encourages contact with …

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The Peace of Mind Box

The Peace of Mind Box When your is mind is full of trouble, and you need some healthy distractions, try a piece of mind box. For this tool, you’ll need a box. Wood, metal, plastic, any kind of box or even an porcelain piggy bank, even a paper pinatas . the piggy bank or pinatas …

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Blessing beads

[youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1CSVqHcdhXQ] My jewlery has always been  important to me, rings necklaces I would ware not only were fashionable but made me feel as though I was protected. my tiger eye necklace I wore for years before it broke. Now I have personally empowered My wedding ring. It reminds me that I’m loved and that most …

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Forgiveness…. Why?

Many of you couldn’t imagine forgiving an attacker. This takes time to do. You must first make peace with yourself; and come to terms with what has happened. Imagine yourself at a crossroad: In one direction is peace and happiness; the other is pain and hate. You cannot go both ways; so you must choose …

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